Breakups are hard for everyone involved. If you want to let him go without causing him too much pain, here’s how to break up with him, nicely.
I’ve few breakups myself.i Actually broke up with like two of a long term relationship and i tell you it was fun . Well i have little experience in this, so am give a tip on how to breakup less painfully.
you can also comment if you know anyone
you can also comment if you know anyone
most people think that picking a fight or starting a quarrel is the best way to start a breakup with someone, because it’s much more easier to do when you’re angry.
But that only causes pain to both party, and believe me that's not what you want.
But that only causes pain to both party, and believe me that's not what you want.
Guys have a weakness to use anger as their focus tool. Specially before sadness results to crying. If you want to avoid their wrath and learn how to break up with him the nice way, these are the different ways to do it without resulting to pain or fight. Just get this at the back of your mind, that every body is not the same, so the approach may woke for you and it may not.
No 1. Don’t start a fight. Starting a fight as a means to transform into a breakup is only going to make things much worse. truth, you might think that it going to be much more easier to break up with someone when you’re mad or angry at them, because it takes your pain away. But that's not right.
This is specifically means that the thing you’re fighting about has nothing to do with why you’re ending the relationship like, "You don't even respect me. I'm talking and you are busy breathing? It's over!", No. You’ll get them all wound up and angry. And it can result to something else.
#2 Do it face to face. Gone are the days of breaking up via phone call or text message which people see as cruel or heartless. You need to do it yourself, face to face. if you have any Atom of respect for your *soon-to-be ex*. Breaking up with them in person gives them the excuse to let out their thoughts, emotion and feelings too.
Plus, doing it over the phone is much more cruel which others consider kinda wicked and it doesn’t give you enough time to explain how you’re feeling,or show them you really feel, so if you want to, do it in person.
#3 carve out time for a lengthy conversation. Don’t break up with them when you have a total of 10 minutes to spend before you have to be out the door for work or some other important commitment. Allow an entire afternoon for the onslaught of all a breakup brings to the table.
It’s disrespectful to drop something like that on a person and then rush out the door without giving them the time they need to cope and ask you questions.
#4 Don’t blame them in any way. Pointing fingers is absolutely not the RIGHT thing to breakup with someone.Even when its clear that they to blame for you not bring joy and happiness to the relationship, never make it about them because it causes them the most pain.
Don’t use the, “it’s not you, it’s me,or vice versa” speech on them, but that’s basically what you have to let them know without using that phase. Make it about your misery and your wants changing, they’ll feel less pain. And at the end of the day—if they really care about you—they just want you to be happy.
#5 Don’t beat around the bush—hit the nail on the head. Don’t set up the breakup with a long, boring speech about how people your age need to explore and all that junk he really doesn’t care about. Breaking up with him the nice way means you get right to the point.
It’s always best to be open and honest and just get down to the nitty gritty of it all. This takes all the guesswork out of the whole speech you’re giving. And it minimizes their anxiety about it.
#6 Have a specific reason and stick to a major one. They’re going to want an explanation or reason for why you want to leave them or breakup with them, which is ok in a breakup. But don’t give them a long list of what as gone wrong. But also don’t give them such a broad reason that it doesn’t make any sense.
I’m not happy is a good reason to break up with someone, but give them more than that. This gives them more closure than just giving a broad reason and letting their imagination fill in the rest. Even if they don’t accept that reason at first, stick with it.
#7 Be sensitive. They’re going to be hurt. This feeling might manifest itself in a number of other emotions so just be sensitive to that. If they start yelling and getting mad, try not to act out. Just be there for them.
Breaking up with someone and dismissing their feelings or showing that you don’t care is a fast way to make them mad and hurt them even more. In order to break up with him the nice way, put yourself in his shoes and understand how he’s feeling.
#8 Ask them how they feel about your reasons. It might seem like a bad idea to ask them how they feel about your reason for leaving them, but think about it for a minute. If you ask them how they feel about it, it forces them to think from your perspective.
They put themselves in your shoes and sometimes they’ll even agree that parting ways is the best solution. If not, at least you gave them the chance to tell you how they feel about it, giving them more closure and helping them heal.
#9 Don’t say you can be friends. I know most people will disagree with this but,At least not at first. While they might want to maintain contact and keep you around, it’s only going to hurt them more and take them longer to heal and move on. This might seem like the nice thing to do, but it’s actually not.
#10 Let them be hurt. This is the most important thing you have to do in order to break up with him the nice way. Allow him to be hurt. He’s going to be mad angry, depressed, sad, resentful, and a whole slew of other emotions. But you need to let him feel those things without prying. This means you need to shut down contact with him for a while until the breakup phase has passed.
who says breaking up with someone is easy, but atimes you just have to let go of people, maybe its affecting you or its affecting them. I hope this ten nice and sweet idea will help you.
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